Inner Child

You ever have someone that you tried and tried to make it work, or get along with the person, or get them to like you and it just seems NOTHING works. The saying not everyone will like you is true. To spend your time to try to get someone who will not change nor/or see their own issues that they need to change is truly a waste of time. For you cannot change anyone but yourself.

Most people have experienced some sort of childhood trauma or event that changed their perspective or tinted their view on how they approach life in general. The problem is this trauma will follow the child as they develop and what the person chooses to do with their responsibility of healing the situation for their own health will more than likely affect how they do in adulthood. Most people choose not to heal. Choosing to run from something that is within you is a lose - lose situation. It will forever be with you until YOU choose to change it. The problem is when childhood traumas or issues are left unaddressed within a person it becomes like mold in the corner...eventually it will sit long enough and become toxic.

So, sometimes that person snapping on you or disrespecting you or lying to you or betraying your trust may have less to do with the actual situation you're in with them and more to do with the person's negligence to heal something that has been wounded for so long. My therapist taught me some people are unwilling and some people are unable. What's the difference??? A person that is unwilling is able to provide you what it is you need from them but refuse to do so because of some problems that they have with themselves. People that are unable may want to be able to provide you with what you need from them but may not know how because they've never been exposed to or put in that type of situation or a person like you. Some people just rather spend their life running whether they are unwilling or unable.

The most important thing is you're only responsible for the growth of your soul at the end of the day. But sometimes before you choose to snap back at someone that was rude to you or who you felt disrespected you look for their inner child. Try to figure out if this is just how that person is a bitter useless prick or try to see deeper into them and see that this person doesn't really want to be that way they just haven't dealt with their childhood traumas. Ask yourself are you operating from a place of healing or a place of trauma disguised as drama??? Has your inner child been healed??? If it hasn't what is it you need to go back and heal so that your inner child may finally be at peace.